When you have children, they are your priority. You take care of their every need, less so as they grow older, but the worry for their safety and wellbeing never stops. If you could wrap them up in cotton wool forever and it was socially acceptable to do so, you probably would – such is the love for them and the fear of them getting hurt. You don’t want anything to happen to them, you don’t want them to see any bad in the world. While this may all seem a bit neurotic, it happens all over and many mothers can empathise and see their own thoughts while reading this. It’s a natural way to think, however fretful it may be.
With that in mind, you need to look after number one. If you have two or more kids, your number one is still the same person, regardless of how much love you have to share – it’s you.
One is the loneliest number…
It can feel like you are facing the world alone when you’re a mom. This isn’t true – there are thousands, if not millions of others standing right behind you, going through exactly the same thing. Those who haven’t gone through it at that time either have done before or will do in the future. You’re not special in that respect. But you are to your children. You are their number one, and without you, a lot would not be able to function. There are households where Moms and Dads take equal share in the roles, but for others where the role lies traditionally with the mother, you getting sick could be a living nightmare.
Don’t dismiss symptoms
If things aren’t quite right or different to how they usually are within your body, get checked out as soon as you can. Even small symptoms can be indicators to underlying illnesses, and if it was your child who was complaining of feeling poorly you’d take it a lot more seriously – so why don’t you have the same stance on your own health? Grouchy behaviour every day isn’t normal; for example, it could be an indicative of more serious things like the effects of asbestos poisoning (http://www.mesotheliomahelp.org for more information) or a sign of mental illness. Get yourself sorted before it is too late to do anything constructive about what is happening … it’s not just yourself that you are looking out for.
Keep fit, keep healthy
Taking care of yourself when you’re taking care of at least another human being is hard. Taking care of just yourself with nobody else to take into considerations alone is difficult enough. Adding more bodies into the mixture only strengthens the need for you to be in prime condition. Forget age – it’s just a number. Regardless of how old you are, if you have children you need to be able to keep up with them; not just for sports activities and arithmetic challenges, but able to keep yourself going until they are ready to stop.