How to Beat Empty Nest Syndrome

It can be tough when your kids leave home, especially when you have had your life as a parent take up most of your time and energy for the past couple of decades. It can be hard to adjust to life without your wonderful children, and many parents feel a sense of sadness and loss when their kids leave the nest. This is called Empty Nest Syndrome, and you might have it if you feel a deep void without your kids like you feel lost or like you’re not a mom anymore. If you’re feeling like that, or if you have a feeling when the kids leave home, you will feel like that in the future; there are ways you can fight and beat it, so you can enjoy this new period of your life thoroughly. 

  1. Define Yourself

Many philosophers have driven themselves crazy trying to work out how best to define human beings. You might find it helpful to read some simple philosophy or listen to some podcasts about some philosophers. The existentialists had a great message that can help empty nest syndrome – it can be boiled down to the fact that none of us have a set identity or a set role. Who you are is up to you, not up to anybody or anything else. You have the power to define yourself. 

Of course, this can be a bit heavy, but it can help some people who have patience. If you don’t, that’s okay – have a think, which members of your community have you always looked up to? Maybe you could do what they do or learn more about their roles. What role do you want to play in your community? It will help you to get a sense of belonging

  1. Help Others

Helping others is a great cure for feeling lethargic and lost. It helps to give you a sense of direction, whether you’re volunteering, being a great neighbor, or being involved in community issues. Whether you’re just distributing funds from your IRA towards a Red Cross monetary donation, or if you’re getting stuck in and helping out at a soup kitchen, there are many different ways for you to find a new role through altruism. It’s also great for your health

  1. Connect with your Partner, Friends, or Family

If you have a partner, the kids leaving home can be a great excuse to connect with them on a whole new level. How was your relationship before you had kids? Many moms relish the opportunity to reconnect with their partners and start making new memories as a couple. You will be able to travel without worrying about what’s happening with the kids. You’ll be able to go out for date nights without thinking either about a babysitter or about a gathering on your property that somehow spirals into a party. 

If you don’t have a partner, look into connecting with family members or friends that you haven’t been as close to because you’re busy raising kids. Plan activities and fun days out, immerse yourself in different hobbies together, and explore this new phase of your life with some company! 

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