There is a reward for being a carer of a member of your family. If you’re looking after an elderly relative, you can make sure that they stay out of a nursing home. Reports have shown that elderly residents health deteriorates faster in care homes than it would if they were living with family. If you are looking after a member of your family with a disability, you can ensure they get all the support that they need. That said when you take on the role of a full-time carer you are making sacrifices with your own life. You won’t have as much free time, and you will have someone who is almost completely dependent on you. As such, before you take on this role, you need to think about the issues involved and the problems you’ll need to come to terms with.
If you are looking after an elderly relative or a child with a severe disability, it is possible that they will need constant care. You should not underestimate what this means. They will need 24/7 monitoring, and that does not mean that you always have to be in the room. It does, however, mean that you always need to be within a suitable distance to help and know that you can see them. You should be able to spot a hazard that could put them in danger. Again, this is going to affect your spare time. You can’t settle down with a good book when you’re a 24/7 carer for a family member. Nor will you be able to pop out for an hour or two. If you’re not there, someone else needs to be watching over them. If you can’t deal with this type of responsibility, you certainly need to think about another solution.
How much money do you need to look after a relative or family member with a disability? The short answer is a lot more than you would need for a typical household. You must think about renovations and remodels the home will need to fit their new lifestyle. You will also need to think about any tech or equipment that you’ll have to buy. Everything from stairlifts to ipads to monitor the family member should be taken into consideration. You might find this type of care does start to eat into your finances, but there is a solution. You can get help from a legal team that specialises in getting the money families like your needs. Chermol & Fishman know the pressure on families, and that’s why they have spent years making sure that carers of people with disabilities get the money they need from the government.
Finally, you do need to consider the emotional impact of being a carer to someone you love. Your role in their life will change and evolve here, so you need to be prepared for that. At certain points, the person who you’ve dedicated your life to care for might resent you. They may even at some points seem like they loathe you. But you have to understand how difficult it is for them and essentially, roll with the punches. It is by no means an easy life, but you will probably end up closer to that individual than anyone else in your world, and that is quite special.